They have already mentioned how they want her to quit her job when we have children. She calmly responds that the decision will be made by her and me, but I know she’s reeling inside. These aren’t minor disagreements; they are life choices, and I know it’s going to lead to big problems in the future. She’ll play their game to a point. For example, after getting berated by my mother for helping me carry bulk groceries (“because that’s a man’s job”), she has never lifted more than what goes on the dinner table. I’ve spoken with them about how it is disrespectful and devaluing to both of us, but I don’t know what else I can do.